In a society where thin is still beautiful, good looks are still above anything else, and influence and power could take you places, it is indeed hard to fit in. The clichéd word “be yourself” is hard-pressed on women and a lot of us take the words “just be yourself” equivalent to “you are flawless just the way you are”.
Well, reality check, you are not perfect and will never be. So do not put too much pressure on yourself and consider the following tips:
~ Don’t take things too personally.
When you go out there, everyone is doing their thing. People do not think of you closely as you would have imagined. They have lives of their own. So live your life and stop thinking about what other people would say and think about you. Do not get yourself wrapped in other people’s opinions. Do not compare yourself to others. Life is too short. Live your best life. Live your life.
~ Never settle.
There is so much talk about finding Mr. Right. Sure, it will be all great to marry your childhood sweetheart or your first and last boyfriend, but are you certain that he is husband material? What this means to say is that you must still make an effort to know if the person you are with right now will really make you live a happy and fulfilling marriage. Easy to settle for something that is already there, however, remember that this is your life spent with “the one”. Therefore never ever settle for someone who is only good enough.
~ Work at being interesting.
Control how much you share whether it be on social media or in real life. We all know that women love sharing their thoughts, experiences, and other whatnot. This is perfectly fine, but make sure you have your boundaries. We have all been there – stuck in traffic, paid the bills, got that shoes on sale – no one needs to share your everyday happenings. You don’t have to verbalize everything. Keep yourself interesting to others that they are dying to know more about you.
~ Work smarter.
Early in life, we are taught to work harder so we can have food on our table, be able to pay the bills, and spend some spare money wisely. But, most of the time, working harder could take a toll not just on the physical but also on our mental perspective. There should always be a balance. Working smarter is the new thing. This does not mean to say that you will just laze around. Ascertain what really needs to be done and what can wait.
~ Say what you mean
Nothing is more damaging to oneself than saying what we do not mean. Stop trying to please others for fear of not being liked or rub them the wrong way. Be yourself and true to your values, it the greatest gift you could bestow upon yourself. Speak the truth when things are said against your beliefs. Fear, not the discomfort that you may feel internally.
Be yourself. Yes, a clichéd line mentioned above, but it is really one of the best secrets of a modern, happy woman. She likes what she likes not because others like it. She dislikes what she thinks does not look and feel good not because others do not like it, too. You are a unique individual. Women are not all created the same. There are really no group of women who act and behave in the same way.
~ Resist to constantly please others.
Seeking validation from others is a surefire way to prevent yourself from living your best life. We cannot please every single person in this world no matter what we do. Be responsible for your own happiness.
Now, aren’t we all glad there is none of that? So, stop trying to fit in just for the sake of belonging. Love who you are. Be yourself!