Men mature, women age, why is that? Why do we accept it? Acceptance and aging I do not think that should live in the same world.
As we get older we are, supposedly, mellowing out. Or at least the world wants us, women, to mellow out. To see life from mom’s eyes and see life in a different way… on and on with this non sense. We age physically that is a given. No need to further discuss it. However, we do not have to accept to be put or put ourselves aside. That is the issue that we are faced with.
Middle age woman and men we go thru changes as the years go by. Let’s take men for instance.
Men wake up one day, look at the women that has been next to them, thru thick and thin, and all of the sudden she is older, not as slim and some lines are gracing her once youthful face. And, of course they still see themselves as the high school stud muffin they were 20-30 or so years back and with a full set of hair and no flabby belly. Oh no sir! They are in full youth bloom!! Blooming alright, but in the wrong direction.
At this stage of life, some men get a wild hair and decide to re-live their youth and make havoc of theirs, and everyone else, life around them. Not all men are like that thankfully. But the one that do, the transformation is uncanny. Losing weight, coloring their hair, if any left. Trading the family car for the sports car. Start acting like teen agers with not a care in the world.
Unfortunately, some are trading the family for the young thing that says yes to everything because she sees the bank account and the life style that comes with the more mature man. I am referring to a good 25-30 and up years gap here. Sorry guys!!! Don’t mean to pick on you but you know what I mean.
So why do we say “Man Mature” while some men actions are not mature at all? This will always be an unsolved mystery.
And here we sit ladies! We dedicated our life to please a man, raised our children, work logistics better than anyone business. Clean snot, vomit, missed bowl… Pick up, put away, clean and cooked for a good part of our prime years. We can get ready in a flash for that last minute dinner plans that will enhance your spouse career, while the only thing we want to do is take the infamous shower, hopefully by ourselves. Wear comfy pj’s and curl up in bed. The idea of watching tv or reading fades away fast as we are so dead tired. But no, we put on the happy face and off we go.
We put our own desires, wants on the back burner to please our kids, our husband. Our careers are either taking the life away from where we really want to be or, are pushed way on the back burner. We trade in our gorgeous lingerie for mom’s undies and yoga bras. Heels for snickers or worse, flip flops, let’s face it easy on and off. Short skirt, suits and dresses for yoga leggings and t-shirt.
What do we do to ourselves when that 50 mark hits? We feel comfortable on our shoes, life is happy and serene. Our duty as a mother is almost done and now we can enjoy life. And then you wake up one morning with this stranger next to you that think he is Brad Pitt or Keanu Reeves and start acting like someone out of a comic book. He just needs to breath and needs space.
As we start to look around we noticed how complacent we have become. We lost all sexual appeal. Why? We felt into comfort zone. No one’s fault. Our closet is full of yoga and gym clothes. Our lingerie drawer is lace free and full of sports bras. Ladies those have to go as they are so unflattering on so many levels. Our overall appearance is not as it used to be. We desperately need a change.
The change as to start by taking a very close look at the mirror and ask ourselves: What I love the most about me? Look at all your wonderful features and start from there. Enhance your inner and outer beauty. Do not be afraid to step out of your box.
Do not let someone “is that what you are wearing?” or ” I like when you look natural” even better “Just be comfy..” place conformity on your life. Why is it that men have this power to change us and yet they are looking for exactly the person we were before the transformation? Why are we afraid to tell them to bite the dust? Do role reversal on them and see what happens. Not pretty, right?
Start by making small changes. Nothing major that will be regretted later. A new updated hair do, do not go crazy and chop everything off just cause. New make up and definitely a brighter “look at me” lipstick. Trade in the gym clothes for real clothes, and will all the sales going on all the time you will not break the bank.
Bring back the lingerie for you. Lingerie is for you ladies not for a man. You will be surprise how good it feels to know that you are wearing something fun, sexy, devilishly attractive and it is all for you. Your mood will feel sexy, look happier and definitely more attractive.
Most of all, the best vengeance is to be happy. And no, do not go out and date right the way to get even with the ex. Love yourself first. After all from the date you got married to now, you have changed too. You do not like the same things anymore. Love to have time to yourself and heal your heart first.
Once you are secure in your heart do not be afraid to date again. And if your attention and heart are captured by the opposite of you and it happens to be young…. have fun, you only live once so why not?